F*ck the Rules
I wish I had your style.
I want to dress cute… I just cant.
My body doesn’t look good in cute clothes.
No. Fuck that.
If you like it, wear it. I know fashion has its rules and as someone who has styled many a customer- I usually work within them. Not necessarily because I think they are the end all be all of fashion, but because people usually want clothes to hide, mask, transform their bodies into something more likely to be accepted by society.
And I don’t blame them.
It is incredibly difficult to brush aside societal standards of beauty to embrace your own. There is a pressure to conform that exists on nearly every possible platform. You need to look a certain way and when you don’t, well, fuck you for trying.
For example, the most common thing I hear is, “I need to hide my tummy.”
And holy shit do I feel that.
I’m a size 4/6. And if I am a size 4/6 and thinking that my stomach is too big, needs to be hidden, doesn’t look right… what the hell are my sisters who are a size 12 or more thinking? What kind of pressure are they feeling from their friends and family to buy dresses that hide their stomachs? What are they thinking when plus size models have their bellies photoshopped to be smooth and flat?
Not everyone has the power to brush off the small criticisms that build into body complexes.
You’re likely thinking, “What the hell does all this have to do with style?”
The answer is simple. You are far less likely to try new trends/styles/looks if you feel like you aren’t made for them. How many times have you held yourself back from buying a skirt because you were positive you couldn’t rock it like the person you saw wearing it? Or because someone might think your legs are too skinny or your stomach too round?
The point I am trying to make is- fuck the rules.
The point I am NOT trying to make is- get over your problems.
Working through body issue or self confidence issues isn’t some magical process that happens just because I told you too. You’re not going to go buy that dress you wanted and suddenly feel like a babe in it because Sam said you could. It never works that way.
What I am saying is- its okay to feel like you can’t pull something off. It’s okay to not feel comfortable in your own skin. But that can change.
Style isn’t just about the clothes. Its the person in the clothes. Its the confidence they have in them. You don’t have to go out and buy expensive clothes or a million and one different pieces. What you do have to do is love what you buy.
When you love what you buy, you will love how you look.
I mean, hell, a lot of my outfits aren’t anything special. They’re not game changers. I dress like your everyday woman. That’s the entire point of this blog, really.
To share MY style.
And those looks are easily accessible and easily worn by your average person. So that they can turn around and incorporate those ideas and make them personal to them.
Who fucking cares if that top makes you look boxy? If you like it, wear it. And if you really don’t like the boxy aspect- tuck it in, belt it, wear a cropped jacket- find out what you can do to make yourself love it. That’s where you will find your style.
Do you have something to say? I’m looking for a few people
to interview about this subject (and possibly to photograph as well). If you are interested, please contact me via the contact button on my blog.